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LOVE AND THE LAW.

 

Love for one another is the greatest thing, in my opinion, and the main thing humanity should strive for regardless of religion, and that goes way beyond romantic, sexual or friendship feelings, although it may include or oppose that. What I mean by love is seeking to always do what is beneficial to others, not just yourself and to avoid hurting others and yourself. e.g. If you had sex with someone you like while already in a commited relationship with someone else, you would hurt the person you commited to and this action would thus be unloving, selfish and wrong.

If you believe in God, I ask that you believe God is love and hope, as the Bible indicates in 1 John 4:7-10;

"7 Dear friends, let us continue to love one another, for love comes from God. Anyone who loves is a child of God and knows God. 8 But anyone who does not love does not know God, for God is love.

9 God showed how much he loved us by sending his one and only Son into the world so that we might have eternal life through him. 10 This is real love—not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as a sacrifice to take away our sins."

Even if you don't believe, at least believe those are the virtues we should try to have. To Love each other. To do unto others as you would have them do unto you and not the reverse. Also if God is love (consideration, compassion) then if one really does what is love you do automatically do God's will. If you really know love (for other people/mankind), you know Him, regardless of any stated beliefs and differences.

I have read a passage somewhere, I think the Bible itself (if anyone knows the source please tell) that goes something like this;

"If a father feeds his child, clothes his child and educates his child, that child may still not have known love and even with all this things, may have been neglected. But if a father loves his child then because of that love he will provide for and fulfill all his child's needs. He will he feed, clothe and educate his child and his child will know love and not be neglected."

This is shows how the Law of Love, that Jesus gave in the New Testament, is supposed to fulfill and exceed all the laws of The Old Testament, and He gives us the free will to obey it and Him or not (because does obedience out of being forced to really make you good? Or is it more good and noble to obey out of love for and faith in that person? You can see which God wants by Him allowing us the choice to disobey.)

Similarly, no matter what logical ethical rules we may or may not have we may still not do good, but if we truly care for one another, by always considering and doing what is beneficial for others and avoiding hurting others in spite of feelings or circumstance, then we shall truly do good, for God IS love and hope. God is not hate and not despair, such as that brought by complete condemnation of someone rather than consideration and guiding that person. And doing something that is destructive, such as taking all hope away from someone, such as completely condemning a gay person rather than helping them, is not love. In fact, complete condemnation makes some feel it's useless to try to be good anymore and thet can do anything they feel because, after all, you've told them they condemned and damned anyway. I may be completely wrong, but I ask you please consider these words and let us find the beneficial truth together.

The importance of love shows itself again in the fact that while we have a huge amount of diversity and division in the world most of us have a sense of something called good and evil, right and wrong and while the details vary greatly, if one looks closely at all laws and values of religion and ethics seem to be based on only a few values;

  1. What I mentioned before, where deep down we believe and know that truly harming others is wrong/evil and seeks to avoid that, and also believes helping / benefiting others is good (and tends to or seeks to do so). This is compassion or love and the essence of God.

  2. The values of gaining benefit for oneself and avoiding harm to oneself. This is looking out for oneself or self love and is neither really good nor evil in isolation but is generally positive vs. being self destructive.

  3. The values of truly harming others especially those who are different from you, who disagree with you or what you believe, who aren’t obviously beneficial to you and are of apparent hindrance or even in your approved list of people/groups to hate by some justification or simple lack of compassion (e.g. people who have done certain actions / have different beliefs from your group or are simply different). This goes beyond disagreement or justice; this is seeking to harm others who disagree with you, this is the feeling / belief that anyone who gets in our way, the way of things we want, or more commonly HURTS us via insult or injury deserves no human rights, no compassion, respect or love. This is so called “justified” hatred and is a lacking of God / love in such a person at such a time.

The majority of us respond with anger when someone does us wrong… and that anger is justified, but it must be anger at the wrong and not hatred of the person. This is not a foolish saying but reality, for anger turned into hate encourages back anger and hate in kind and each hurtful word and deed may be met with ever more hurtful words and deeds going back and forth and escalating with no end until that person or group of people is wiped out and they search for someone else to hate or they change and learn forgiveness. Forgiveness and a more compassionate and measured reponse should be the case regardless how the other party treats or hates you. I am not saying you should let yourself be abused or tolerate being harmed! Do not tolerate it! Let them know you don’t, but with respect and compassion for the person. Defend yourself and stop them from harming you in an appropriate manner but do not let anger overcome love and make you say or do things that are just as harmful, and especially more harmful, if at all possible. Love and God would want you to forgive the other person and out of love respectfully denounce the hurt and wrong they are committing and protect yourself against them further hurting you but not taking revenge, not seeking to annhilate them, but to help them. Any punishments by the law, parents or yourself should be for the offender’s own benefit in addition to the victims' and society.

How these values break down morally are as follows;

Action/Words that do benefit to self, truly harms others = Selfish, Evil
Action/Words that do benefit to self, truly benefits others = Good
Action/Words that do harm to self, harms other = Destructive, Evil
Action/Words that do harm to self, benefits others = Self Sacrificing Good (or Harmful depending on degree and number of people greater truly benefitted vs harmed)

Actions/Words that benefit and harm others = Good or Evil based on which is outweigning in terms of degree and number of people greater truly benefitted vs harmed.
Actions/Words that benefit and harm self = Good or Evil based on which is outweigning in terms of severity and necessity.

Let us consciously make the choice to consider others, ourselves and all known facts and make the choices love would guid us to in our words and our deeds constantly and habitually.

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